The man I want to be. The man I’m becoming.18/10/19

 

  His most treasured physical feature is his smile. 

  He is confident. Confidence is an enhancer, making other attributes shine more brightly – including physical ones.

  His intelligence is respectable, desirable and adorable. He desires knowledge. He has: an analytical mind; well-founded logic; confidence in his rhetoric yet willing and able to accept, recognize and recant fallacies in his positions. That’s fire.

  He is spiritually aware. His belief, specifically, is in a higher power who is God – three in one.

  He is aware of and diligent (if not passionate) about dietary and other necessary processes to ensure physical health and wellbeing. 

  He is emotionally stable and independent while having a propensity to envelope and commit to (loving) [an]other soul(s) completely. [He doesn’t lose his sense of self.]

  He is assertive about who he loves, what he believes, what he stands for and what his goals are.

Loves and cares for his own family and set of friends.

  Dynamic, multifaceted, generous. Progressive sense of humour, resilient, thoughtful.

Loves children. Concerned for the poor, i.e. for a society that provides equal opportunity and that promotes and is conducive to good prevailing.

  Aware of his strengths and weaknesses and willing to seek, co-opt or accept help when needed.

  A lover of God who has a growing relationship with Him. Knowing how to pray and worship, and knowing the power of prayer, worship and God’s principles and laws – such as seeking Him first and giving. [That is, how to follow these and the power of following in the case of the latter example.]

  Ever growing, ever changing, ever developing, ever learning.

So, beautiful inside and out…desirous of pursuing a relationship…a good negotiator…willing to compromise.

Unafraid to voice his opinions but doing so with love and tact.

Willing to apologise when he is wrong, has caused hurt, etc.

Not blinded by love or any one thing. Or, aware of his biases , prejudices, blind spots and accounts for them.

  Not afraid of or dimmed by ‘humble circumstances’. Creative and innovative. Not frightened or changed by wealth of any kind.

Are you this man or are you becoming him??

Not afraid to work to shape something that’s lacking into what he wants it to be.

Patient – with himself and with others.

Faithful…. Yet willing to forgive and be forgiven.

Not a chatterbox or a gossip. Knows how to be discrete and is a super-confidant.

Appreciates music, sports and other cultural expressions including dance and the diversity of languages.

Not easily daunted…. Willingness to explore the unknown.

Loves equally in words and actions.

+ One who is AFFECTIONATE!

+ There should at least be sound indicators of these characteristics, or a demonstrated propensity to develop them where completely absent [when ready for a serious relationship] for self-actualization.